When It’s Time


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A lot has happened in the last few weeks.

#MeToo and #KavanaughHearings have brought us to a moment in the women’s movement that is both exhausting and exhilarating.  Dangerous.  An edge of something.  No going back.  Those who want to fight reality will soon find the silent numbers are larger than they ever thought possible.  And why?  Because here in America we still don’t see women as fully able to determine what is for their own good.

I spent the weekend at the first Addiction & Faith Conference.  Amazing.  200+ people gathered to explore together how spiritual people – not just church people – can help find an end to addiction.  Or at least, expand access to recovery.  The numbers of those dying is horrible.  The cost to themselves, their families, to our society.  And we stand by and do nothing.  The health systems are only just realizing that it affects their bottom lines.  And why?????  Because here in America, we still think that when something in the brain isn’t working right, it is a failing of the Will, not a failing of the physical muscle.

When I returned to my next shift at a drop in center for struggling and homeless youth and young adults, I came face to face with how broken the system is.  With all that I try to do, in the end, all I can do is try to answer some questions in an area-wide housing intake program as accurately as possible, so that an honorable young man can get out of the cold and into housing before it snows.  But even with that, when his name is called, it may be months before he can move in anywhere….and the snow will be a foot deep then.

Then I come home to my mess of a house – and email an organizer to help me get things back on track.  As one of my mentors reminded me, we can’t do it all.  We have to find time for ourselves.

But when…when can we find time for ourselves when young adults who could work but can’t because they don’t have housing are needing help; when women are still afraid to talk because the accused will be believed; and when it is just a matter of time when another member of my community will die from an addition (isn’t enough that families are being torn apart right now?).


When it’s time for you to act.  You will know it.  Trust in your gut.

Say something.  Do something.  Pick something.

Claim your space.

Get your world in order.  Start at home.  Start with your community.

The world doesn’t get fixed unless we fix it.



About SFriant

I live to walk with others on their journeys - because everyone needs to know that they are loved, that they matter, and that they are doing amazing things. I'm a lot like our two kids: obsessed with learning, and constantly creating.
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