Sometime when my oldest was a toddler and I were going a bit crazy, another mother told me to find ways to help him feel as if he had more control over his life.
From that moment on, my husband and I have added to our parenting job description the requirement to delegate to our children.
As small people, the world is full of things they can’t do, shouldn’t do, and don’t understand. They just want a bit of control, some sense that they can affect the world and have input in their own lives. By delegating small decisions and responsibilities, these developing individuals gain a huge sense of personal identity.
The bonus of delegating, of empowering our kids, is that our lives can be easier! With each little trick, each little change of organization, it is one less thing on our lists! But most important, it decreases – if only a bit – our stress, which in turn increases the peace in our lives!
As a busy family, anyway we can work better as a team is extremely valuable – both for the current moment and long-term family relationships.
To help my son get dressed in the morning, I hung an over -the-door shoe organizer in his room. Different pockets held underwear, shirts, and socks. By putting the job of finding and putting on these items, getting out of the house became a lot easier! At 3 he could get dressed with little direction, and at 4 was getting dressed on his own, often even without my prompting!
We’ve had the kids plates and bowls in a lower cabinet for them to reach, and our daughter was soon getting a bowl before asking for a snack. Yet, I still had to keep it organized. By adding a dish drainer, the kids now are fully in control – even unloading their own dishes from the dishwasher! Simple step, yet empowers them and reduces my stress. Why hadn’t I thought of it before?
How do you empower your children and improve your life? Leave your ideas in a comment and/or link to your site! Would greatly appreciate more easy ideas!
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