What can we give our children that really matters? This month, through letters to my children, I am exploring those things that I hope and pray that they will receive – either today, tomorrow or 30 years from now. Once they can read, I will share these with them. Personally, It is my hope, that through the process of writing these letters will help me be a better parent and human being. I hope those who read them may find them helpful too!
To my son (M) and daughter (C),
I love you!!!! As I write this I am thinking of the parents and siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents and cousins, friends, neighbors, and babysitters in Newtown. A tragedy that I hope that you two will never know. I pray and hope that this is the last one, that this is the last time that parents will be called to their children’s school – and not be able to take them home.
I can only pray for them. And pray. And pray. And pray.
Unfortunately, the world is not void of evil. Things happen.
I hope things happen, like getting a bad grade, loosing a game, learning your limits. I pray that with us at your side, then a bit more distance away, and then finally just a text away from your college, you can learn how to recover and thrive after disappointments and failures.
Yet, I pray and hope that you never have to face anything like the kids in Newtown. I hope that you never face a disaster like that.
However, I know that you will face loss in your life. I just pray and pray that whatever befalls you, whatever happens, that you are surrounded by people who love you and that you can rely on for support. For resilience can be as much about our inner abilities as it is about having the right community around us.
C., you are already showing your natural resilience. Anything that gets in your way, you work at until you have it conquered – or you decide you need help! You were barely walking when you decided to master a ramp at a hockey rink, going up and down until you felt confident that you knew what to do. You were having so much fun mastering the situation! I see you continue this with almost everything, including keeping up with your brother.
I pray and hope that your father and I can help you learn how to be resilient. I pray that the challenges that you will face will make you stronger – in mind, body, spirit and/or faith. I pray that you will be able to get through anything – survive anything – in healthy ways that honor who you are.
Resilience is such a gift! It will help you enjoy life, allowing you to get over the bumps in the roads, and figure out how to get through the deep valleys.
And I pray that your resilience will never be tested too much.