What can we give our children that really matters? This month, through letters to my children, I am exploring those things that I hope and pray that they will receive – either today, tomorrow or 30 years from now. Once they can read, I will share these with them. Personally, It is my hope, that through the process of writing these letters will help me be a better parent and human being. I hope those who read them may find them helpful too!
To my son and daughter,
Patience. A wonderful gift that I have had to, and continue to, cultivate. Your Dad on the other hand, naturally posses oodles of it. I don’t know if it can be inherited, but at least, it can be learned.
I have spent too much time trying to rush life, rush myself, and rush others. I wanted things done, and done the only way I thought they could be done. Somehow I thought I couldn’t wait for anything, because life itself didn’t wait.
I saw too much to be done, imagined deadlines that were unreachable, and in general, felt expectations that were impossible. Yet I kept doing it, thinking others were crazy when I was told to slow down or take a breath or try something different.
There was a ticking clock and limiting expectations. I couldn’t see around what I had put in front of myself.
I didn’t have patience, because I didn’t know how wonderful living patiently really is! To not rush, to not feel confined, to not limit myself with unreasonable expectations! The world opened up!
Time, instead of limited, becomes precious!
I hope and pray that you will have patience – that you will not feel confined by time or the “only way” to do something.
Patience, as I see it, is allowing for life to unfold as God intended. Patience is allowing ourselves and others the time and space to be creative, be who we truly are, and enjoy the journey.
The day will pass in the same amount of time if we run or walk through it. Yet if we run, we crash at the end of the day, thinking of everything we haven’t done and what went wrong, and often, angry with ourselves or someone else. If we walk, we get to see the joy and magic that surrounds us everywhere!
Patience is difficult to cultivate as a parent, yet it is with delight that I slow down and learn who you are. Sometimes I do become impatient, yet then I remember that nothing is more important right now than supporting you through childhood.
I pray that you have patience so that you are able to see all beauty in this world, in your life, in others, and in yourself!