What can we give our children that really matters? This month, through letters to my children, I am exploring those things that I hope and pray that they will receive – either today, tomorrow or 30 years from now. Once they can read, I will share these with them. Personally, It is my hope, that through the process of writing these letters will help me be a better parent and human being. I hope those who read them may find them helpful too!
To my son (M) and daughter (C),
I love you. First and foremost, you must know that. And out of that love, I want you to have everything you are called to do in this world.
Yet, through my various adventures past and present, I’ve seen so many people who have not been able to do what they want. And I’m not thinking of a fast car, the big house, a closet full of 30 pairs of jeans (even 10!). I do pray that you will not know limitations that are brought on from financial dependence – on others or the government. I pray that you will not become a servant, a slave, to the whims of others, the culture, or other people’s mistakes.
Sometimes, I know it cannot be avoided. There are plenty who have lost jobs, gotten sick, or a natural disaster has greatly shaken the lives of even the most responsible and prepared. Sometimes things happen.
Yet, in whatever you are called to do, wherever your journey takes you, I sincerely and deeply pray that your life is not constricted and confined because you are unable to financial support yourself, and if married, and if with kids, support each other.
I truly don’t care about the details (as long as they are legal!). I don’t care if it is just enough to have a roof over your head, some kind of transportation, and food on your table. I just pray that you have enough to take care of yourselves and save for the future, for a time when your health will prevent you from making more. I pray that you will have enough to help others too, but first, to meet your basic needs. I also pray that you will have good discernment when it comes to what you need and what you want.
I don’t have any clue what it will be like when you are starting out on your own, or when you are ready for a family, or when you will be ready to retire! Your Dad and I have enough problems trying to figure out our own present and future. Yet, as the way things are going, you will have even more challenges than us. (Hopefully your Dad and I wont create additional ones for you!)
Your early childhood is not a time to worry about all this, but at the same time, it is now that you are beginning to learn the skills and cultivate the characteristics which will help you through. I pray that your Dad and I make the right decisions that put you on the right path.
In the end, however, it is all on you. What a huge thing to think about for a preschooler and a toddler! Yet as I look at you and wonder how you got so big, one day you will be on your own. Lord, help me help them!!!!!
May you be able to take care of yourself and your family, and be able to help others. May you enjoy life and make things work, however that may be!