Being Real with our Kids (and others)

Parenting is difficult.  If you are one, you know it, if you aren’t, well, spend an hour with a kid and you will know too.  The art of parenting (any “science” may work for one, but not all!) takes into our own personalities and experiences, the growing and changing child, and millions of circumstances under which we have various degrees of control.  Even if we do our best, do our research, do everything we are supposed to do, it doesn’t always turn out they way we hope.

On Mike’s March 8th blog for the Sphors and Multiplying, he reminds us that with all our good intentions, in the end we make mistakes.  Yet within his story, we see him doing exactly what he wants to do, but not quite as expected.  Mike wants to help Annie know her big sister Maddie, who is already an Angel.  The stories, photos and other remembrances of Maddie’s too short life will slowly introduce Annie to who her sister was and is, yet it is Mike and Heather’s feelings and emotions that will open up to her the real essence of Maddie.

As sistersunderthetrees, we can share the structure of our days, the mechanical details, even stories of our joys and frustrations.  But we cannot truly connect until we can relate our lives through our raw and pure emotions.  We may not always be kind, or pretty, or at our best, but by acknowledging who we really are and welcoming others to do the same, the barriers can fall and we can become truly present with each other.

By coming out from our hiding places and being who we are with our loved ones, friends and strangers, we also coming out of hiding and stand more fully in the presence of God. (Genesis 3:8)

(Note added later: I don’t mean that we should be mean or abusive to anyone, especially our children, but we should talk to them about our emotions, our feelings, what things and people really mean to us.  When we don’t, we miss out on great teaching opportunities as well as really getting to know another person.)

 Genesis 3:8 (NRSV) They heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden.

About SFriant

A mom and wife trying to live deliberately and spiritually in a crazy world.
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