Get That Girl a Cheeseburger – Book Review

Eating disorders – I don’t even know where to begin.  I’ve known people with it, even wonder about a few – but it is not one of my personal issues.  I’ve read a clinical book about it years ago, but the only information that stayed with me is the concept of personifying it as “Ed”.  Yet I’ve always wondered what I would do, should do, if someone close to me had it.  I wondered what I could do for someone who was a support person of someone with it.  Other than try to get them professional help…or support them as I would anyone going through issues…why could I do differently?  What could I do that wouldn’t make it worse?

Then in walks this woman radiating God’s Love:  Haley Snyder.

We ran into each other and quickly realized that we had a lot of interests in common.  She is an amazing woman, someone who I admire deeply for her honesty, integrity, and her ongoing drive to build a life worth living.

cropped-front-cover.pngPart of the life she has built includes her book, Get That Girl a Cheeseburger: Eating Disorder Myths and Misnomers.  This quick and meaningful read, is a gateway to understanding eating disorders and the role of support people.  Packed with clear explanations of the many ED (eating disorder) terms, corrections of the myths and assumptions around ED, and first-person experiences from a variety of individuals, this book is a must read for anyone who needs, or wants to be, equipped to help others with eating disorders.

First, the explanations of terms related to ED, such as the types of eating disorders and treatment options, help clear the fog.  Instead of a hazy understanding of this scary thing, Haley brings it into focus by understanding what is involved.

Second, Haley divides her book into chapters addressing the most common myths and misnomers of ED.  Each myth is broken down by a well-written explanation and a real-life story of someone dealing with ED.

Third, the first-person stories make the most impact.  Individuals who could be our friends or relatives, share their journey.  The images we hold in our heads of those with ED are replaced with real people just like us.  ED becomes not something someone else has, but something anyone can have.

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Haley Snyder

I asked Haley how writing the book has changed her life:

“My life has been changed by this book.  It was the first time that i publicly shared my story, so writing it was scary and exciting.  I actually didn’t even think about publishing it until it was almost complete.  Right after I published and released it on Amazon and on my website, I panicked.  It had become real that people were actually going to read what I wrote – and pay to do so, but it also opened up the reality of criticism.  Luckily I haven’t had to deal with much of that, and when I do get feedback, I always look at it as a lesson to better my art.”

I also asked Haley what reactions she has received:

“I have gotten mostly good reactions.  My family and friends were very proud, though most of the feedback has been from people who don’t know me and who are validated by the way the book was constructed.  Most memorably was a man who came to my book signing after reading about it in a newspaper.  ‘My daughter has an eating disorder, and we have done everything in our power to get her help, but it just isn’t working.  Do you have any advice for me?’  My heart broke for him.  I gave him some tips and highlighted a couple of the parts of the book that may be of help and he left with tears in his eyes because he had finally found a little hope.  That is what I wrote the book for.  If is family are the only people who benefit, my job is complete – but it’s been much more than that.  I am so blessed that God put this book in my head and on my heart.  All of the Glory goes to him.”

Who should read this book?  Anyone who needs a bit of assurance on being a support person for someone with E.D.  Anyone who is a mentor to youth so that you can be better prepared if you realize one (or more) have an eating disorder.  Anyone in ministry, as somewhere along the way you will need to deal with it.

Haley, Thank you for sharing your story – but not just your story, the story of many others dealing with this dreadful condition.  You do bring hope as a survivor yourself, but also as someone who can speak for those who can not speak for themselves.

Lord – be with all those who are lost, that they may find their way.  Help those who find the only way to control their life, to let out the pain, is to harm themselves.  They are beautiful, good, loved and a blessing – I pray that can see themselves as you see them.   And give all those around them your eyes too, that we may be patient, supportive and understanding. Amen.

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Frosty, the Snow Kitty

Happy Monday!  This is just a fun little post about our new kitty.  Hope it makes you smile!

We adopted Frosty from the Humane Society in St. James, MN after locating her on

Frosty the Snow Kitty

Despite already having two Himalayan cats, we “needed” another one.  Both our cats, Bruiser and Chester, were around before we had kids.  They have been great with the kids, but aren’t that thrilled about them.  The cats will let the kids carry them for short distances, but after all, they are both senior cats.  My theories on getting another cat were 1) a cat that our son could call his own and relate to might help him with his issues; 2) now with a bigger house, we could shelter another of God’s creatures who needed a home.

Our son wanted a white cat as that is his favorite color, an idea that I loved since my childhood cat was all white.  And after recently finding out that I am no longer allergic to anything (as I child I was allergic to everything – except long-hair cats), we could adopt a homeless cat no matter what kind.  I searched on PetFinder, and found only a few white kittens, this had the perfect description for our family, and her tiny dark smudges on her head give her character.  At first I only talked to the kids about maybe getting a cat, and showed them some pictures.  Both were immediately instant that we had to get Frosty!  They thought the others were cute, but Frosty was the one!

The Angels of Watonwan County Humane Society in St. James, MN

The Angels of Watonwan County Humane Society in St. James, MN

Over Thanksgiving weekend, we ventured south in our car and picked-up our newest family member.  We are so thankful for the amazing people who took so good care of her, accurately described her on-line, and continue to care for so many lives!  Thank you!

She is amazing!  Our children love her.  Both children have commented on how she is so much more approachable than the other cats.  Our daughter has claimed her as her kitty, insisting our son has to get another one.  It’s been too short a time to see how Frosty will affect them as individuals, but if any animal can, she will!

She plays and plays, loves attention, helps me and my husband whenever we are on the computer, lets the kids drag her everywhere, and has made friends with our other cats.  She also is very relaxed when I clip her claws!  She trills, rather than meows, is constantly showing us how smart she is.

Unfortunately she recently sprained a rear paw, and as she babied it, a front paw…but they have healed and she is almost back to 100%!  Perhaps she has now given up her most crazy adventures, which leads to her running into steps, misjudging distances, or just sliding across our wood floors into things.  One of her games was to jump onto the kitty tent, collapsing it on whichever other cat was inside.  I think she’ll be back to her full self soon!

Here are are a few great pictures to enjoy.   And even a little video:  Frosty on the Move

One of our first pictures...I couldn't get a picture of her on her own!

One of our first pictures…I couldn’t get a picture of her on her own!

Frosty and Chester on the new cat tree our son got for Christmas so the cats could climb up into his loft.

Frosty and Chester on the new cat tree our son got for Christmas so the cats could climb up into his loft.

Baby Frosty.  (We haven't dressed her up yet...)

Baby Frosty. (We haven’t dressed her up yet…)

Rest time over Christmas:  Frosty, Chester and Grandma.

Rest time over Christmas: Frosty, Chester and Grandma.

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