I Can’t Wait Until Tuesday! School Starts!!!

Driving Behind a School BusThree more days.  THREE MORE DAYS!!!!  And the bus arrives to pick up our son for the first day of 1st grade.  Then just over a week and our daughter returns to preschool.

Yes, I’m excited.  Already planning happy hour with friends and dreaming of everything I can get done without interruptions.

The last week has been chaos.  Last February when I was signing the kids up for summer camps around our annual summer pilgrimages, I had left the last week of the summer empty.  Partially, because there wasn’t any camps that fit, but mostly thinking it would be a fun week to just relax!  Neither had been book solid over the summer, but enough to keep them occupied and give me a break.

I love my kids.  They are in every breath I breathe and ever beat of my heart.  Everything I do is centered on them…what they need now and in the future.  I’ve let our house be overrun by their imagination.  As parents, my husband and I have limit the hours I can work so we can live a manageable life in the midst of his travel schedule.  We do the best we can.

But, this last week is making me think year-round school would be awesome!!!!

The kids are going nuts, one anxious about school starting wants to do what he wants to do, and the other recently finding new cognitive powers, has her need for self-determination going into hyper-drive.  Their extroverted needs are completely overwhelming this introvert.  Perhaps if I was an extrovert too, it would be easier.  And somehow, I know I’m fueling this craziness.  But life happens.  I’ve found my moments of respite, but after two nights of the kids sandwiching me in bed (hubby is gone on a trip) as I value the fleeting time left with them (and I am too exhausted at bed time to force them into their own beds), I’m tired.

So school is starting and I will be giddy with delight when our son steps onto the bus and it pulls away.

But, it is not just that I am tired.  All parents get tired.  I am also blessed that I am not doing this alone, but rather with a husband, friends, and occasional major help from out-of-state grandparents.

Our son has SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder).  It isn’t that severe, but it definitely gets in the way of “normal living”.  This summer has been a lesson for me.  He really needs a regular schedule.  And he needs more than his Dad and I.  So on Tuesday, I am not only giddy about getting a little personal space, but also that our son will be getting the help he needs.  We will be back on a regular Occupational Therapy schedule, which will work wonders.  Also, he is going to get tons of assistance and LOVE at school.  We are blessed to be part of a district and a specific educational program that is extremely caring, observant and creative.  They are sent from God into our lives.  At the open house last night, we connected quickly with those who will be working with him this year through his IEP.  The school psychologist even sought him out to talk to him, and the new Phys Ed Teacher was very interested in finding out more about him.  When I send him off on the bus on Tuesday, it is to somewhere, not just from somewhere.  We are all given gifts from God, and in our son’s life, my gift is to love him unconditionally and be his safe place and the school’s – our school’s – is to support his social and educational development.  He needs both.

So, Tuesday as I enjoy a toast to the end of summer, I will be also toasting to the teachers and other support staff that they are part of our lives.

God, watch over all the children, families and educators as school begins again.  As with a new day, this is a new year.  Help the students and staff find authentic support and safety in their schools, so that in important ways your Will is furthered for each of us.  Amen.

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Jesus Feminist: A Book Review

Jesus Feminist Cover

Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to Revisit the Bible’s View of Women, by Sarah Bessy has been on my list for a long time.  It’s a long, long list of many amazing books, so that I actually read it is amazing.  It did not disappoint.

I wasn’t sure what I was getting into.  I personally take for granted the ordination of women to pastoral positions (and not just women’s ministry), in addition women teaching and leading, without limitation, in all areas of the church, yet it was just that – I take it for granted.  I have realized over the last year or so that I do not have a quick way to articulate WHY in relation to those who do not agree.  I am thankful to Sarah for taking on this challenge and giving me a way to articulate what I have felt God speaking to and through me.

As always, I don’t want to give away all the great points of a book as I want you to read it.  So I’ll share two things you will learn about to help you articulate why you also need to explore “God’s radical notion that women are people, too.

Biblical Interpretation:  Sarah explains in normal language how scriptures have been misinterpreted based on men with power making a final decision on what God means for humans for all eternity, despite having  limited knowledge (language/cultural/context interpretation).  Sarah does not have a short or easy answer, and she does not ignore the texts in question, but rather takes all of God’s Word as a whole to share what others (men in power, usually white and originally Catholic) have overlooked or ignored due to their limited perspectives.  (Radical question:  Is patriarchy part of the Garden of Eden or part of the Fall?)

The Roll of Women in the Church & Society (Or rather, the Roll of People in the Church & Society):  Sarah primarily speaks of how “we” are doing a disservice to God by preventing and/or limiting women to fulfill God’s Call for them.  This is obviously in the context of reframing the rolls of men and women from the conservative-evangelical viewpoint.  This is not about making men and women equal, its about allowing God to work through each individual as God created them to be.  (Radical thought: The human stereotypes of women and men get in the way of God’s Will.)

Jesus Feminist is about what every Christian says they want: putting God first.  It is about taking to heart what God is calling us to do and be based on the LIVING God, not a God that was frozen in time 2,000 years ago.  It is about interpreting and living God’s Will in our own context and in our own lives, understanding that we actually do know better (but not perfectly) what God wants for us, rather than what someone closer to the time of Jesus (especially as those who decided were in power based on a system rampant with injustice – even more so than now).

Jesus Feminist is about the radical understanding that God loves each of us equally  and that God Wills that we all, equally and urgently, live our lives our to our fullest for the Kingdom.

As I write this our daughter is dancing and playing and signing and creating throughout our house.  She has a strong spirit that stands against every wind that wants to push her down.  She leans into life.  She is a person who has the power to break through ceilings and walls, to create new doors and windows.  There is no way that God has created her to be some man’s helper.  She is her own being, and I pray will someday find someone to partner with in life.  I am thankful that she is another generation away from the days where the only options for her life would be homemaker, nurse, teacher, shopkeeper or prostitute.  I pray that she will not allow anyone to get in the way of God’s Will and Love for her.

I pray that no woman, or man, will allow anyone to get in the way of God’s Will and Love for them.


















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